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Five Guys to Look Out for: Disabled Edition

Updated: Jul 13, 2020

Note: If you are a guy whom I have formerly talked to and choose to identify with one of the following categories that is on you. Neither I nor my entourage have written this to degrade or hurt you or your ego.

Clearly, you people are very interested in my dating life. I don't blame you. It is quite dramatic. However, I'm not ready to be that open, so instead of regurgitating my experiences, I'll do something a little more generic and fun. Below I am going to list 5 shitty types of dudes that disabled girls often encounter.

1. Mr. Sensitivo

He’ll tell you from the get-go how he is okay with your disability and the fact that you have to mention it is pointless because he claims to understand that you are more than that. Keep in mind he knows nothing about you at this point. These guys are usually the sweetest motherfuckers you will ever meet. You can tell them anything. Someone wipes your ass? He'll be okay with it. You have one, rundown, accessible car that you can drive around in, thus, he can't just pick you up to go on a date? He'll be okay with it. You have an assistant that will tag along in the shadows of your date? He'll be okay with it. No explanation needed. Which, sounds spit in my eye, run me over with a three-hundred-pound wheelchair, amazing. Tis not. When he meets you he'll start to realize how real it is, that it’s not a fantasy. At this point he will start to back out modestly and makes it seem like it’s for reasons that are out of your control. The usual life got in the way type of thing. It won't hurt, because you're used to the "if it's too good to be true it probably is" type of mentality. However, for awhile you question if it could have turned out differently if he gave you the opportunity to give explanations. If he didn't try to cover reality with the palms of his hands. The lesson here, kids, is that asking questions doesn't dismiss the fact that you are open-minded and accepting. If anything questions lead to answers, which lead to a clearer understanding that I am not that fucked up.

2. Mr. Smart Ass

He emits a playful friendly vibe from the start. He probably makes a twisted joke about not having to take the stairs again. You will laugh because it’s true and you start to feel comfortable and express how fucked up yet funny your disability could be. The sexy thing

about him is that unlike Mr. Sensitivo he uses the heaviest things about your disability as a pun, which makes you think that maybe he’s actually thought this all through. Thus you make the mistake of opening up. However, he never stops being a jokester. I don’t know what else to say, because this one, this one hurts.

3. Mr. Smooth.

These guys are usually fuck boys and fantasize about doing just that, and they are not too shy to be verbal about it. These are the guys you tend to talk to because you know what you are getting into, and let’s face it. It’s fun to fantasize. Don’t get confused though they don’t actually want you, they just want to say they’ve had a disabled girl. The only dangerous thing about them is when you start to fantasize about them following through on their claims. They never do. Back home we refer to this "de boca para afuera". In other words they're all talk and no play. Your friends will give you shit about talking to this type of guy again and again, but you are just afraid to get hurt by the types that really get to you.

4. Mr. Frankenstein

You are just an experiment thus all he does is waste your time with pointless questions, about what you can or cannot do. He usually disappears in about two or three days, because he got what he needed, answers. Even though this guy doesn't hurt as much he annoys the living shit out of you because he is very hard to identify. He's attentive like Mr. Sensitivo, playful like Mr. Smart Ass, and sometimes makes promises he will not keep like Mr. Smooth. The best way I've found to identify him is by the content of his questions. He tends to ask generic disability questions rather than personal ones. Things like "Can you Drive?", "Can you feel anything?", and of course "Can you have sex?". There's nothing wrong with those questions, but let's mix it up you know? He should ask you things like what your favorite hobbies are, or who your favorite superhero is. He's supposed to be getting to know you as a person, not just your disability.

5. Mr. "My cousin has autism"

Not to be confused with Mr. Sensitivo. This guy feels the need to express and compare both disabilities at times when the comparison does not apply. I have nothing against autism but you're not fulfilling a duty to your cousin by dating me. Our life experiences are probably very different. I wouldn't say apples and oranges, but I might say bananas and plantains. (If you don't know what a plantain is shame on you, look it up.) This one is short and sweet because that's pretty much it. There's no real connection here. He's just checking a box to feel like a good guy.

Maybe one day someone will come around and sweep me off my feet, but for now, these are the types that come around again and again, and I somehow doubt that this is something unique to me. It all comes down to the lack of exposure that people have in the media when it comes to women with physical disabilities. Men don't look at us like fun, friendly people to spend time with. They see a wheelchair, and that's something new and exciting for them that they want to try. They think that they're the only assholes who are giving us attention, but what men need to understand is that we are not only our disabilities we are people who are looking for the same things in life that they are, and we deserve to be treated like it.

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Justin Ward
Justin Ward
01 feb 2020

As a male with a disability, there are types of women like this as well, I have had 2 long term relationships in my life. They both started with the same thing "I don't care what your disability is" etc I can handle it. Both eroded I think because they realized that while yes I may be able to do a lot. No matter what I may teach myself, there will always be things I need help with. the two biggest things are cutting my fingernails bc I don't have good enough dexterity in my hands to do so, and cooking because I lack the balance to do so. So, would you call that a ms Sensitivo?

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Natalya Galarza
Natalya Galarza
15 dic 2018

I can relate with Mr. Smooth. Waste of precious time.

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